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Why I cried when my son got into our Grade R school of choice

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If you’re a mom whose kid is three turning four then you may have been through the Grade R application process, but if your kid is four turning five then you know ALL about the ‘interview process’ which is the most gruelling part of this journey. The subtle and not-so-subtle vying for a spot for your kid can bring out all of the stress and all of the ugly in any ‘prospective parent’. It’s tough out there! Everyone just wants the best for their kid.

I’m a white Southern Suburbs mom of a black son who is ready for big school next year and we want the best for him. I don’t want to make too big of a deal of it, but it is kind of a big deal and choosing a school has been one of the hardest decisions in my life so far. My husband and I want Ilan to go to a great school so that he can get a great education that will expose him to opportunity in life, but we also want him to go to a school that is diverse with diversity reflected in the school body as well as the staff room. Sadly you can’t have your cake and eat it at many schools here in the Southern Suburbs of Cape Town and I blame apartheid. Continue Reading

How to explain Youth Day to your 5 year old

Have you told your kids why Youth Day is a public holiday in South Africa? Here’s how I tried:

Before you were born we had a bad president who had a bad government. This president said ‘white people you must live here’, ‘coloured people you must live here’ and ‘black people you must live here.’ He said that white people can’t be friends with black people. This was very wrong. One day the government decided that all the kids need to learn in Afrikaans at their schools, even the kids who only knew how to speak Xhosa or Zulu. This wasn’t fair because it’s hard to learn in a different language that you don’t know. The government didn’t want the black people to get too clever which was very wrong.

One day these children (they were actually big kids) from three different schools in a place called Soweto decided that they had had enough and made a plan to get together for a peaceful protest. They all got together early on the morning of June 16 to march to the stadium.  Their principal said, ‘Good luck everyone. Please be peaceful and behave well.’ All the children were very excited to march and sang songs together – there were about 10 000 kids all together. Continue Reading

Meet the Mama – Marileze Feldmann, single Mom who adopted in her 40s

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Let’s hear from Marileze, a Heart Mama who became a Mom in her 40s by welcoming little 8 month old Nina Katlego into her family. Thank you for sharing your story, Marileze!

Tell us a bit about yourself and your family.

I’m a single white female from Springs, Johannesburg, who adopted a child in my 40s. I’m a qualified bookkeeper, working as a credit controller at a French freight company and currently studying further toward a Project Management Diploma. I have Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) and have never been able to fill my heart’s desire to become a Mom naturally. I decided in 2014 to take a chance and try adopting a family. It worked and 8 months later I had my daughter! Continue Reading

Has adoption been fixed yet? #fixadoptionSA

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Well, the answer is not yet but we’re getting there! I’ve loved being a small part of Team #fixadoptionSA, led by Arise Cape Town‘s Director, Steven Nicholson. On behalf of all adoptive parents in South Africa, we want to say a massive thank you to Arise for putting your time and resources behind this campaign!

Let’s have a look back and see what Team #fixadoptionSA has been up to and how close they are to their goal.

Phase one: Way back in April, Arise  launched #fixadoptionSA with an open letter to Home Affairs Minister Gigaba. Home Affairs was given two weeks to respond with answers to their questions:

1. What is the process for changing your adopted child’s name?

2. How do you apply for your adopted child’s new unabridged birth certificate? Continue Reading

#DIY because anybody can – Ilan’s loft bed upcycle with Gumtree

Have you checked out Gumtree’s new mobile app? Gumtree challenged a few of us bloggers to summon our inner Suzelle by purchasing an item with their mobile app and then giving it new life with a little bit of love and some DIY. The app is super user friendly and I easily found an awesome raised loft bed for my almost five year old son under the ‘Baby & Kids – Children’s Furniture’ category.

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Ilan was super stoked with his new ‘big boy bed’, but just as soon as we gave him his ‘new’ bed, we had to take it apart again to fix it up! This is the before pic:

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So, what did we do to upcycle this bed? Continue Reading