As a mom I soon discovered that my kids’ lives revolve around their birthday and party suggestions – they talk about their birthdays tirelessly and are forever declaring out loud who can and can’t come to their party. It’s relentless. Kira had been talking about turning four for the looongest time and her party theme requests ranged from ‘kitty cat’ to ‘Barbie’ to ‘Princess’, favouring the last two options. I wasn’t keen on either option, mostly because the party decor available in the shops flashes blonde Barbies and Disney princesses who look nothing like my beautiful daughter. I was at a loss and wondering how I could satisfy her desire for a princess party, yet use it as an opportunity to affirm her beauty. Also, I wanted to keep things simple and had planned to host the party for a few school friends in our back garden.