I recently sat in on the #DoveDayatHome online event and was reminded that as moms, we model self-confidence to our kids. They learn how to have a healthy self-esteem by seeing us embrace our bodies – the good, the freckly and the wobbly! And so, knowing this, we need to be really intentional about what we say about ourselves when their little ears are listening in.
One way that we can be intentional is by reminding our girls that they are unique and special, just the way they are. I was inspired by Sthandiwe Kgoroge and her daughter, Zanda who shared the positive affirmations that they say together daily. They are:
- I’m beautiful
- I’m brave
- I’m kind
- I’m smart
- I’m creative
I’ve started saying these with Kira to build up her positive self-talk and have added ‘I’m loved’ as number 6. Positive affirmations hold incredible power and when they are repeated consistently, can lead to an increase in positive self-esteem. Affirmations can be written down, read out loud or memorised and be incorporated into your child’s daily routine. If your daughter comes across an affirmation that she doesn’t believe to be true about herself, you could use it as an opportunity to have a conversation around what that affirmation really means and build into that area of her life. Some days Kira will repeat the affirmations after me boldly and loudly and with her usual sass but today she chose to say ‘I’m ugly’ instead of ‘I’m beautiful’. It’s so important that we use our words to build up our daughters. *This blog post is about the affirmations that Kira and I have started saying together, but it is necessary and important for boys too!
For the past 16 years, the Dove Self-Esteem Project has been on a mission to reach millions of young people to help shatter beauty stereotypes, build body confidence and inspire them to feel empowered and included. Their mission is to ensure that the next generation grows up enjoying a positive relationship with the way they look – helping young people raise their self-esteem and realise their full potential. So far, they’ve reached over 60 million young people in 142 countries, becoming the largest provider of self-esteem education in the world. But they’re not stopping there, they’ve committed to reach ¼ billion by 2030.
Dove have partnered with leading experts in the fields of psychology, health and body image to create a programme of evidence-based resources including parenting advice to help young people form healthy friendships, overcome body image issues and be their best selves – you can take a look at all the Dove Self-Esteem Project resources here, plus a recording of the #DoveDayatHome event on the Dove Facebook page.
And now for a giveaway! Here’s how you can enter to WIN a Dove hamper valued at R2000 filled with some Dove products and all things uplifting and confidence building:
- Hop over to the Facebook post about this giveaway on Heart Mama Blog & give it a like
- Comment & let me know how you are helping your child grow a healthy self-esteem – share a daily affirmation that you say together or perhaps a book that you read to your child where they see themselves represented.
The competition closes on Thursday 19 November at 12h00 and the winner will be selected via Random.org. The winner drawn must have followed all necessary steps above in order to qualify for the prize and live in South Africa. The prize will be delivered directly to the winners by Dove. Good luck everyone!
*This post is sponsored by Dove.