Meet the Mama {Lisa Casson}

Lisa2

Today Lisa chats to us about how her family has grown through adoption. Thanks for sharing your story, Lisa (and for the gorgeous pics of little Liya)!

Tell us a bit about your family.

We’re the Cassons and we adopted our first child and daughter, Liya, in 2013 and recently brought home a baby boy, Tobi, who we’re in the process of adopting. My husband and I have our own business which allows me to be very hands on with the kids.Continue Reading

‘I’m adopted’ An interview with Trish Taylor

254853_10150191730921525_2670911_n

I’m so excited about this new series, ‘I’m adopted’ where we plan to feature adult adoptees and hear about their experiences of adoption. Today we hear from Trish Taylor first hand about what adoption means to her. Thank you for sharing your story, Trish.

What is your definition of adoption? 

Being accepted (embraced, loved, cherished, disciplined) into a family or environment different to your original place of birth/setting.Continue Reading

Meet the Mama {Thandi Nkomo}

unnamed (3)

Thandi and I started chatting through this blog a few months ago – she was exploring adoption options in Cape Town and had lots of questions! Fast forward a few short months  and Thandi has her baby girl home with her and is planning to repeat the whole process again soon – brave mama! Thank you for sharing your beautiful story with us, Thandi.

Tell us a bit about your family.

We’re a family of 5 at the moment, with another adoption planned in the next few months. Homeschool mom, hands-on dad, 9 yearold biological son, 9 year old biological daughter and one adorable 6 month old adopted girl.Continue Reading

Win with Tous Les Jours & Heart Mama Blog

Who doesn’t love snuggly pjs in winter? Tous Les Jours is a quality ladies sleepwear company based in the Natal Midlands that guarantees quality and comfort in each and every garment produced. Not only do they look after Mom, they have expanded to offer a fab range of cute baby items and a 100% natural and organic skin care range. All available online here.

To celebrate the launch of their winter Mon Petit Chou Chou babywear range, they are giving away a magnificent unisex hamper valued at R550. It’s your lucky day Mamas, if you’ve got a baba who is 0-18 months, then here’s what one of you can walk away with for your little one:

unnamed (2) Continue Reading

Home Affairs, don’t go breaking my heart.

Home Affairs, you really are breaking my heart. I just want my family to have matching surnames. You have such a helpful call centre but consistently give me news that I’d rather not hear. Yesterday I heard that Ilan’s application for surname change on his birth certificate was never submitted to Head Office – it was spelt incorrectly when we went to collect it in September last year. There was no record of our request. Anywhere. No record. It was especially hard to locate my boy ‘on the system’ because his original ID number has been cancelled but he has not yet been issued a new one.

I also heard that the status of Kira’s name change is ‘being processed’. No one knows what that means, not even The Helpful Lady on the other end of the line. She suggested that I email (fax is preferable though) all six Home Affairs forms, plus the entire adoption order to her so that she can query the status on our behalf. She emphasized that each attachment should be sent through in a separate email which means that I’d need to send her a mere twenty emails in total. No biggy.

This is the next part of our forty minute conversation: ‘Oh, you don’t have copies of all the forms you submitted in September? Well, you can just pop to Home Affairs and collect the blank forms, fill them out again and then email them to me. Oh yes, you’re right, Home Affairs won’t let you leave with all those documents. Hmm, well you can ask them to email the forms to me directly. One at a time.’

Welcome to the world of adoption paperwork. It just never ends until one day when it does and we plan to celebrate that day with dances of joy and perhaps a glass of champagne. In the meantime, thank you for giving me so many opportunities to grow my patience muscles, Home Affairs Wynberg.

*This is a true story with no exaggerations. Although this is our story, your story may be different and you may not have to learn the same lesson of patience. This will be your loss, but you will more than likely have to learn a different sort of patience when your little one arrives. (This is a whole different level of patience.) We’ve found that it is important to find humour in the midst of adoption-related frustration, you see. This is how you will survive. The meme below helps us to laugh when things don’t seem funny. (This is the pc version of the meme. The original is even funnier.)

Adoption paperwork