Best Buys for My Black Kids – Heart Mama’s Guide for Adoptive Families

Today is your lucky day because I’m sharing the recent discoveries that are currently rocking our world. If you’re a Heart Mama, you’ll find these best buys especially helpful.

1. Learning isiXhosa through song – Xhosa Songs for Kids from Xhosa Fundis

Xhosa Fundis is based in Woodstock, Cape Town and they offer isiXhosa language courses and culture workshops to South Africans who are wanting to learn the language. They sell a range of learning materials including flash cards, colouring books and pocket phrase books as well as our kids’ FAVOURITE CD – Xhosa Songs For Kids. The songs are so catchy! I’m not exaggerating when I say that we play this CD before school, on the way to school and at least once every afternoon. The CD cover has a helpful Xhosa/English translation so you can follow the lyrics. See purchase details here – the CD sells for R150.


2. Teach your kids a new South African language with Xander Language Apps

Xander is a local company that has developed a range of language apps for South African kids (and their families!) – they are available in Xhosa, Zulu, Swahili, Tswana, Afrikaans and English. We’ve downloaded ‘Xhosa Shapes & Colours’, ‘Xhosa 1, 2, 3’ and ‘Xhosa Wardrobe’. You can download the app on Google Play, App Store or Amazon for R9.99 (Xhosa Wardrobe was free!). Click here for more info and click play below to see Kira practicing her numbers in Xhosa.


3. ‘I don’t like hairbrushes that make little girls cry’ – Introducing the magic Tangle Teezer

We finaaaally tested the Tangle Teezer and there is no looking back, it has already changed our lives! We can brush our kids’s hair without any squirming or tears, which was impossible until now. The Magic Flower Pot Tangle Teezer is designed to encourage little girls to brush their own hair and has a little storage pot for storing hair accessories. Kira takes her ‘my Teezer’ to bed with her because she loves it that much. You can purchase this particular Tangle Teezer on Takealot for R219 but Clicks also stock a range.

This product was sponsored by HairCair.

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4. African stories for African Kids – The Lemon Tree by local author, Katherine Graham


‘How often do we read about bluebells and foxes and beavers to our children instead of things that are familiar to them?’ says author Katherine Graham. Her latest book, The Lemon Tree, is a really sweet story about making pancakes with Gogo with beautiful illustrations by Wendy Patterson. I was freshly reminded that representations matters when Kira looked at the cover pic and said, ‘Mom, that’s me!’. You can buy this book from Exclusive Books for R83, click here for details and watch the blog for a giveaway soon.

5. Audio stories in isiXhosa from Nali’ibali

Nal’ibali (isiXhosa for “here’s the story”) is a national reading-for-enjoyment campaign to spark children’s potential through storytelling and reading. You can play the free audio stories by clicking here and also check out their downloadable story cards and free printable activities and crafts available in different languages.

Does your black daughter love her hair? This Sesame Street song will help.

I’m still very much a beginner when it comes to caring for Kira’s hair, but I’m learning something new every day. I want Kira to grow up knowing that I took a proper interest in her hair and that I didn’t outsource all of her hair care because it was too much effort for her white mom. Because it’s not too much effort. Heart mamas, we have a responsibility to learn how to look after our daughter’s hair and teach them how to do it themselves. Find a ‘hair mentor’; learn what products work for your daughter’s hair; learn what ‘curl type’ means and do everything you can to help them love their hair even if it doesn’t ‘look like mommy’s hair’.

The writer of Sesame Street created this song when he noticed that his adopted daughter was starting to feel unhappy that her hair didn’t look like the Disney princess hair she saw on TV. I just love this cute catchy song, it’s a winner! Kira and I watched it six times this morning and I think we’ll keep watching it until we know all the words and can sing along.

After we watched this video, it was time to comb out Kira’s hair and get her ready for church. She loves the idea of combing more than the actual combing and she still wriggles around a lot more with me than she does with her teacher, but I love that she really does love her hair!

Let me know if you’re daughter enjoyed ‘I love my hair’ as much as mine!

Predo nappies have arrived in SA – WIN 3 x Jumbo packs!

WIN 3 Jumbo Packs pngYou may have seen me rave about this newest brand of nappies to hit South African shores over on Instagram and I must admit that I am a proper fan. I was sent a pack to test out on my kids and I found that the quality matches the popular SA nappy brands already on the market. Predo nappies  offer a snug comfy fit with an elasticated band, are hypoallergenic and have that powdery fresh ‘new baby’ smell. (Warning: new baby smell might make you broody!) Oh and the Predo branding is gold and turquoise which is stylishly gender neutral and fab.

You can follow Predo Baby SA on Facebook to find out more about local stockists and specials. They are also currently available online at and retail for competitive prices. OR you could also just scroll down a bit and enter the giveaway to win a month’s supply of nappies right here!

So, hands up if you’d like to WIN 3 x Jumbo packs of Predo nappies? Here’s how:

  1. Comment on this blog post with the name & nappy size of your little one.
  2. Like & Share the pinned Facebook post on Heart Mama Blog
  3. Tag a friend on the Facebook post to share the love!

The competition closes on Friday 12 August at 12h00 and the winner will be selected via The winner drawn must have followed all necessary steps above in order to qualify for the prize. Competition is open to South African residents only and delivery of the prize will be made to your doorstep. Good luck mamas!

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The Kynie Kids have new threads! Our online shopping Spree with See-Saw

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So I had my first online shopping experience with Spree recently and the Kynie Kids are now looking pretty sharp if I do say so myself. When my delivery arrived (a mere one day later), I announced to Twitter that ‘You know you’re a Mom when kids’ fashion is important, but your jeans are two seasons old.’ Yip, this is what happens when you’re a Mom!

We selected some gorgeous items from See-Saw and the best part is that everything fits! I’m always a bit wary of buying clothes online but the See-Saw range was spot on with their sizing. You can have a look at their range here: and by selecting ‘See-Saw’ under brand. Here’s what we chose with a budget of R800:

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Click PLAY to see some Boomerang smooches between siblings who are feeling pretty stoked with their new clothes.


If you’re like me and haven’t bought from Spree before, this is all you need to know: Free delivery for orders over R250. 30 days free return and R100 off if you’re a first time shopper and you sign up to their newsletter. What’s not to love?

Happy shopping!

Why I cried when my son got into our Grade R school of choice


If you’re a mom whose kid is three turning four then you may have been through the Grade R application process, but if your kid is four turning five then you know ALL about the ‘interview process’ which is the most gruelling part of this journey. The subtle and not-so-subtle vying for a spot for your kid can bring out all of the stress and all of the ugly in any ‘prospective parent’. It’s tough out there! Everyone just wants the best for their kid.

I’m a white Southern Suburbs mom of a black son who is ready for big school next year and we want the best for him. I don’t want to make too big of a deal of it, but it is kind of a big deal and choosing a school has been one of the hardest decisions in my life so far. My husband and I want Ilan to go to a great school so that he can get a great education that will expose him to opportunity in life, but we also want him to go to a school that is diverse with diversity reflected in the school body as well as the staff room. Sadly you can’t have your cake and eat it at many schools here in the Southern Suburbs of Cape Town and I blame apartheid. Continue Reading